LIFE IS FAIR

Everywhere you go you will hear people complain about life being not fair. It is also a known fact that most people believe that life isn't fair too. We know that life is precious, and it is appointed unto man to die once and after death judgment, but, what is life really, is it really not fair?

Those who say that life is not fair may have all the reason to believe that it really is. On one side of the world you will hear and see people dying of hunger while on another side of it you will see people living in utmost luxury. There are people living in cramped homes contrary to the rich and famous who live in houses only Kings can afford to build. life must not really be fair with this kind of scene you see everywhere.

You might have had the experience working all your life to death and yet find no success. Haven't you been to life long struggle to find greener pasture but greener pasture is nowhere to be found. You spend half your life looking for the reason for your existence and find no answer to your queries.

Then you look around you, exactly opposite your experience, you see somebody who is having the grand time of his life. You see him buy a new car, he gets promoted and he builds a new house. His family is happy, his wife loves him and his children are healthy. Looking at the contrast of these 2 experiences, one can really conclude that life is indeed unfair.

What I believe to be is that life is fair. I don't claim to be having all the good things in life, neither do I see myself living in dire misery. Everybody is given the same cards to play, the same paths to follow with different choices to make. It is in the choices that we make that makes one different from the rest.

On each choice we make are given equal amount of joy, equal amount of heartaches, opportunities and bad luck. Those who are living in luxury made a choice once in their lives and the choice they made had the same amount of joy and happiness, sadness and misery as opposed to those who have made different choices and yet lived in misery. Neither can you therefore claim that because you are living in Vanuatu and living in a poor condition makes your life less fortunate than those living in Japan with expensive lifestyle, nor can the Japanese claim that since they have a very high suicidal rate makes their lives more miserable compared to the people in Vanuatu who was recently tagged as the happiest people in the world.

Life as being fair is likened to a balloon where all the components to make life is squeezed in, and when you step on this balloon, one part of it will be pressed while another will expand. The part that is hard-pressed is the time of your life that you may feel the lowest but then on the other part of you may have the grandest.

It is not a rare experience that when a person is at the height of his success, he tend to forget that his wife and kids are at home waiting for him until he falls down, lose his job and go bankrupt. It is only then that he realizes his family is more important than wealth.

It is often said that the measure given to you will also be the same measure asked of you. A poor man is given one cup of joy which is easy to fill up while the rich man is given a bucket of joy which is harder to fill up. The poor man on the other hand had a bucket of misery which is not easy to empty while the rich man has a cup of misery which is easy to empty. the irony however of these buckets of joy and misery is that it may just be a cup of misery for the rich man to empty but no matter how small it is it cant be emptied.

Don't sulk about how your life has been because you can rest assure that everybody experiences what you are experiencing. It may be that the degree is different but all the same it has the same intensity as how you have perceived it to be.

Man can only contain so much joy and happiness, suffering and pain. Anything beyond what man can afford to have is death to him.